Those who love a pure heart and a gracious in speech will have the king for a friend.
Prov. 22: 11
Does this make the king your friend or your friend into a king?
What we love is what comes to us. If we love pure heartedness and graciousness, it comes to us. If we love our friends, we grow in friendship. If we love a pure heart, it is a pure heart that our heart becomes.